Here's a little rant...
Apr. 23rd, 2004 @ 01:32 pm
I have been told several times that I am lazy because I am bottlefeeding my daughter. I don't think that the folks that said this realize, that bottlefeeding can sometimes be harder than breastfeeding. Breastfeeders don't have to get up go to the kitchen and heat the bottle up at 4:00 am, all the while dealing with a squaking munchkin. It is a lot easier to go get the baby, whip out the boobie and lay back down, and go back to sleep. (at least alll the folks I have talked to IRL, have said that.) I am sick of people telling me that I am lazy/don't care about my baby/she will have a low IQ and/or get sick all the time. No matter how you feed your baby, it's NOT easy, and bottle feeding does not make you a lazy parent.
crossposted to altparenting
I breastfeed but my mom feed me by the bottle and I think im smart :/ lol so I wouldnt be a bitch and rant you out. I guess im a ok with everything boobyfeeder.
Good luck with your little one!
Because due to the fact that she was premature, and I didn't get get to even hold for quite while after she was born, the docs just went and gave her a bottle. After that she wouldn't even try to nurse, I would put her to breast, and she would just sit there, even when she was obviously hungry. Nipple shields didn't even work. The breast pump hurt so bad, that I was in tears each and every time, and I just couldn't put myself through that every 3 hours, every day, for the next 6 months to a year. Also, I would try to pump, and would get nothing. I managed to get colostrum all of twice, and when I did, it was all of about 5 ml worth. My milk never came in, even after 3 weeks.
Were you on mag sulphate before she was born? It's used to stop contractions. That can prevent milk coming in. It didn't prevent mine, but I read it can have that effect. I pumped for three months before my daughter got the hang of breastfeeding - I almost gave up twice. Also, you don't get a lot of colostrum - that is perfectly normal. The baby could only take about a teaspoon (or 5ml) at a time anyway. It's hard work pumping for a premie. Better luck next time.
My mother was in the exact same position. She really wanted to breast feed myself and my sister. But I was born very tiny and was just too small to breatfeed. My mom tried everything you did. Was not going to happen. She had to formula feed or I would have starved. Apparently, by the time I was big enough, her milk had dried up. She tried to pump but, like you found it too painful. My sister was born blue and was in a humidicrib (sp?) for the first two weeks of her life. Since they did not want to risk taking her out too much, bottlefeeding was easier and safer. So while I, like my mother, support breastfeeding, I could never judge a formula feeder. Formula allowed me not to starve to death and I am thankful the option was available. People, however, made cruel comments to her at the time, calling her lazy and neglectful. The nurses in the hospital treated her like a monster for bottlefeeding. One nurse actually took the bottle away and told my mother she was going to breastfeed me and to stop 'being so selfish'. I was hungry and crying but was just too tiny to breastfeed. My mother stormed up to a doctor and tore him a new one for allowing his staff to act that way. The doctor was horrified, bottle returned and nurses chewed out. Yet the first time my dad hit me, people were nowhere near as horrified and some even urged her stay (she did not). People need to get their priorities straight, which is the health of a child. Sorry for the rant, but I get sick of the judging too. I'll shut up now:)
I totally agree. I could not imagine carting bottles around and washing them when I could just whip out a boob, anywhere. I had so much work as it was, keeping up on feeding myself. I could hardly make toast, let alone wash bottles! My daughter had some formula after 6 months or so, but breastfeeding was far easier for me, and spiritually rewarding. The pumping milk when I went back to work was pretty tough, though.
yeah, pumping was really hard, I never managed to get anything except for a tiny bit of colostrum, and for me it hurt like hell!
I agree 100% I bottle fed all 3 of my kids and it really pissed me off to have people say that. Both options have pros and cons. Until I find more pros with the breast, Ill stik to bottles.
While I believe 'Breast is best' (Bfing as I type) its' not an option for everyone. I have three kids and the middle one wouldn't touch the breast.
And as for pumping-gah!-pain, pain, pain
!! I don't know how it can work for other people, I must have odd boobs.